BE SIMPLE, HONEST AND NATURAL IN YOUR
MARRIED LIFE
Eruch Jessawala
How lucky and how very blessed you are that you both
are in love not only with each other but with our
Beloved Lord and Master Avatar
Meher Baba.
Although you haven't seen the Lord physically, the
finger of His Grace has touched your hearts and
awakened in them love for Him. What good and great
fortune in one lifetime!
Your anxiety to please the Lord by living an ideal
married life in accordance with His wish is indeed
very touching. The ideal, however, is not arrived at
overnight. The true meaning of married life unfolds
very gradually, and with it, very, very gradually,
the aspirant gets a hold over biological urges.
Be patient. Let your love for her, hers for you, and
the love both of you have for the Beloved Lord,
dispel all tension, confusion, and desperation in
your married life. Remain happy and contented with
the blessings of His Love upon you both. He has
blessed you with His Love so make the best of it in
this life. Waste not your precious time analyzing
the meaning of words
of the _Discourses_ and in devising ways and means
to make your married life compatible to the
s.,e.x.u.a.l/biological urges according to the
written word. If you continue to do so, you will be
engrossed and entangled all the more in words and
thoughts of s.,e.x, whereas your beloved Lord and
Master wants you to remember Him wholeheartedly and
get lost in Him rather than His words. Why should
one give such importance to s,.e.x and celibacy?
There are many other things more
important than this given in the _Discourses_..jpg)
Now that you have asked me to give my say on your
s,.e.x problem -- if there is any problem at all -- I
would say that Beloved Baba would want you both to
live a natural and happy married life. Recalling
similar incidents in the lives of Baba-lovers during
his physical presence, Baba would want you both to
continue to use contraceptives under the
circumstances as long as having children is out of
the question and as long as you both do not indulge
in s.,e.x indiscriminately. Let there be no doubt
about your using contraceptives, as Beloved Baba
would have no objection to your using them.
Beloved Baba would want you both to love each other
and be loving and gentle to all; He would want you
to be simple, honest, and natural in your married
life; He would want you to please Him in your
everyday life by remembering Him and loving Him
utmost with child-like simplicity and purity of
heart; He would want you to know undoubtedly that
_for an aspirant on the Path_ His words are most
beneficial, _but for His lover_, who loves Him and
lives for Him, loving Him whole-heartedly is of the
utmost importance. The Lord of Love becomes the
slave of the love of His lovers when such
whole-heartedness is dedicated to Him without
questioning, and without expectation of material or
spiritual reward or gain.
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LETTERS FROM THE
MANDALI, Vol. 2, pp. 10-11
ed. Jim Mistry
Copyright 1983 AMBPCT
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